To my knowledge, chat and private messages are not logged in the debug log by default. Most servers do keep a log or are even connected to an IRC server where logging may exist. Thus, if this happened on a public server, and not via private /msg, you ought to contact the server owner and see if anything can be done. The server owner may as well keep an eye on what is happening in chat and intervene if something goes wrong.
GG1850 wrote:She apparently gave her name and some location info and who knows what else. I was on using her ID this am and saw that the person in question was asking for 'real names' and where the players live - and the children were providing this info.
It *might* just be another young child which is beeing curious. But one never knows :-( Young kids often seem to want to make friends with anyone whose name they read for the first time. And there's a reason for the rule saying "this is not a dating service" on some servers - some players (probably very young ones) try to abuse it for that - with all the problems that may arise from there.
GG1850 wrote:Clearly we were outsmarted by our child to be on this during the night, and that won't happen again
Your daughter will get older. It will happen again sooner or later. Better make sure she knows how to deal with such situations and will know she can get help and aid from you in case something went wrong.
I sometimes ask players how old they are when they're misbehaving or behaving odd. I won't expect the same amount of good behaviour from a child than from an adult - children are young and want to play and especially don't realize that their behaviour may be slightly annoying to others. I've met some children whose reply was "my parents told me not to tell my age to strangers" - a perfectly good answer which told me that it's probably a child (=so be more tolerant), and which did not provide any unnecessary private information. Perhaps you can find a similar solution for your child.